A good relationship with a loving partner definitely makes life worth living. Whether you are married, divorced or single, there is no doubt that you have discovered that sex is a very important element in finding and maintaining a healthy and joyful love life.
However, the meaning of sex between men and women is as different as a rock to a jet plane. Men can get turned on visually by a sexy lingerie or a hot model in an adult magazine. Whereas, a woman needs to be emotionally connected in order to have sex.
Because both sexes are wired differently, sexual problems can drive a wedge between couples.
Problems experienced by women include:
– Difficulty in becoming sexually excited
– Trouble reaching orgasm
– Not enough foreplay before intercourse
Problems cited by men include:
– Ejaculating too quickly
– Attraction to women other than their partner
– Erectile dysfunction
Thus arrives the inevitable question…How can I help my partner consistently reach orgasm?
Here are 3 easy foreplay tips that will make you a great lover and generate high-intensity, full-body orgasms for both you and your partner:
Use The Sense Of Touch To Excite Your Partner
Awaken the erotic anticipation in your lover by introducing touching into your lovemaking. Gently and slowly massage those secret hot spots. One part of the body to focus on is the ears. You can stimulate the ear by lightly stroking it with your tongue or probing it slowly with your finger.
Another part of the body to target is the inner thighs. There is a bountiful of sensual nerve endings awaiting your touch. Start with slow, short strokes and build to a mediocre rhythm.
However… are you ready for the number one hot zone that will spice up your sex life and get those juices flowing?
If you really want your partner to explode with desire, the most hypnotic and erotic spot on the body is the feet.
The secret of foot pleasuring began in the Bible. In the book of Solomon beginning in Chapter 7, King Solomon aroused his many wives by admiring their feet and sandals. Solomon had 1000 wives so just imagine his shoe bill. In addition, the Chinese have been using foot pleasure since the Tang Dynasty in the 10th century and it still exist in their current culture.
The goal is to arouse the senses – all of them by using the power of the foot. There is nothing more pleasurable than a long, slow, relaxing foot massage. Use a sensual-smelling massage oil such as Japanese Cherry and massage the sole of the foot in a slow, circular motion. Next, use your nose or tongue and explore the toes, the ball of the foot, the heels and the top of the foot. Caressing the ankles, massaging the arches, smelling and kissing the soles or sucking the toes are easy yet very effective ways to propel your partner into total bliss!
Change Your Sexual Routine
If you find you are bored or dissatisfied with sex, try changing your sexual routine. For example, if you are a woman and you are nude during sex, buy a sexy nightdress. If you normally do wear a nightgown, go nude and show your body. If you are a man, change those old pajamas or T-shirt and buy yourself a silk nightshirt.
A second tip is to make love in a different room of the house such as the shower, a hot tub, the washing machine while it is on spin cycle or the pool table. However, watch out for that glass coffee table that was only made to support 50 pounds. Be creative, use common sense and enjoy yourself.
A third tip is to change or advance your sexual positions. For example, if you are a woman, try drawing one of your knees toward his chest or try resting both of your legs over his shoulders.
And here is the new super sex tip of the century:
Reverse the universal sex position – to all men, lie on your back and women, please mount him. This position will allow the man to prolong the buildup before ejaculation. The man does not move at all while the woman does all the work using his penis to hit every g-spot, h-spot, i-spot or whatever alphabet she is aiming for. This technique will forever eliminate the 2-minute man. The football game in the other room will have to go into overtime if he wants to see it.
Plan A Spontaneous, Romantic Experience
Instead of the crowded restaurant scene, prepare a candlelight dinner for two. Or plan a sexy picnic with your favorite foods and a large rug and blanket to cover both of you. Then spend a romantic night in a hotel. If you have children, hire a baby-sitter for a day and spend the day visiting art galleries, museums or the zoo.
Here are a few more romantic ideas that either a man or a woman may enjoy:
– Buy new sheets for the bed and leave a love note on it.
– Too tired to cook or not a good cook and on a budget? Ask a friend to prepare a meal for you and spend an evening together with your partner in front of the fireplace.
– For men, know the six gifts that women request the most: jewelry, shoes, handbags, perfume, lingerie and attention.
– For women, know the six gifts that men request the most: sports memorabilia, tools, electronics, clothing, tickets and no nagging.
– Frame your baby pictures together.
– While out in the public, show your affection to each other by holding hands, hugging or just saying, I love you.
– Take long walks together on a regular basis.
– Make a homemade card or write a poem to your partner.
– For women, hide a box of chocolates under his pillow.
– For men, hide a gift certificate from her favorite store or salon.
– Communicate and listen to each other.
– Schedule and learn a new dance routine together at your local dance studio.
Remember – action speaks much louder than words. You don’t have to buy big expensive stuff – it is the little stuff you do that makes you a good lover.
So…get off your lazy butt and show your partner that you love him or her.